On occasion in the past I have called myself a “feminist” but then I thought about the issues and I changed my mind, thinking instead that what is important is to move beyond any claim that one gender has the moral high ground in behaviour to a position that recognises the reality of each gender that is programmed into each individual at the most fundamental level to be a particular way. Nothing made this clearer than having a daughter of may own. I had seen so many of my female friends demonstrate a total lack of any ability or understanding of machinery or mechanism and I was absolutely sure that this was an example of “learned uselessness” and I was determined that my daughter would grow up knowing how to use tools and to be as able as any male in the workshop.
Duh!
Daughter has other ideas and proves to be totally uninterested in my gender role fantasies. So it dawned on me that the real truth is not that we can blur the lines between the genders but that we have to embrace the differences and accept that males and females are complementary and there is no point in whining about the qualities of either. Which brings me to the piece I cite below about Fay Weldon which ticked my funny bone this morning. What really upsets the Fem-nazis is that we men steadfastly refuse to be moulded into the image that they have designed for us. They can’t accept that we see the world differently and have different visions of what is clean and tidy for instance.

Fay Weldon: 'If you have children late you have no energy left for sex, and men wander off with someone else'
Asked if she thinks feminism has destroyed women, the author of The Lives and Loves of a She Devil and Puffball claimed that there are fundamental differences between the sexes.
She added that men should not be given such a hard time by career-minded women.
‘Life is much better, because you are not dependent on the goodwill of men,’ she continued, referring to the growth of women in the workplace.
But the trouble is, the battle became too fierce, and the whole culture encouraged women to believe that men are stupid, useless creatures who are the enemy.
‘But men nowadays aren’t s***. They’re actually much nicer.
‘They just don’t want to commit to you, and why would they when you are a busy working woman who can look after yourself and probably goes to bed easily with them?’
Weldon, a mother of four boys who has been married three times, also said women should not expect men to be their best friend – and should appreciate their need for sex.
‘The thing is, you need to find a man who is cleverer than you, or at least not let him know that you are cleverer than him,’ she said.
‘Women want their boyfriends to be like their girlfriends, fun to go to the pictures with, but men are not like that. They want sex and they grunt.
‘If you really want a man to be nice to you, never give him a hard time, never talk about emotions and never ask him how he is feeling.’
The outspoken author added that women should have children before they embark on a career and not be so picky about finding the perfect man.
‘I think we should have more teenage pregnancies, and work afterwards.
‘If you have children late you have no energy left for sex, and then men wander off to find someone else.
‘The definition of a good man has become ridiculous. I just think that as long as you have a sort of semi-good looking, able-bodied, intelligent man, you should have his baby.’
Weldon married Ronald Bateman, a headteacher 25 years her senior, when she was just 22.

I do very much agree with Weldon that women can’t deny the reality that our biology makes earlier child bearing the most sensible choice and that it is often easier to do things yourself than to harangue your partner into doing thing like clean the toilet. Likewise the idea that men should be more like their girl friends just does not work unless a man wants to totally suppress their inner bloke and who wants to commit such character suicide?
Its nice to see some of the icons of feminism beginning to realise that you just can’t fight biology and make either gender more like the other.
Cheers Comrades
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